Our culture has bestowed on us an axiom – focus on one another and love oneself. This is revealed in the rise of the selfie, the self-aggrandizing of our own vanity, the self-love Paul speaks of as a mark of the last days (2 Tim 3). It is also what is behind the focus we have on one another, our tendency to gossip about, judge and categorize one another, to check out each others’ clothes, style, taste and achievements. It was the same problem in the early church. Paul writes to Timothy to encourage him to deal with the problem: I desire then that in every place the men should…